Slap in the face....

This past Monday was D-day at the lawyers office. For a whole week I racked my brain on what the ex could possibly nail me on now and what could have added up to this $8100 that I owed him. At 3pm, it became crystal clear. My lawyer threw down a folder that was about five inches thick. It was all his credit card statements. The earliest date I saw was 2002 or 03. The evidence of sheer anger was before me.

The items that he was charging me back was everything ranging from clothes at old navy, flowers he bought me and even a charge for the porn store was on there. How he knew that a purchase in 2004 from Old Navy was clothes for me was beyond me. He could never prove it. I was in tears.

I don't feel I owe him anything. He's got everything. I told my lawyer ( who scolded me for not getting my statements, which I know I gave him some) that I left with some furniture that wasn't marital property, my dogs, and my clothes. He's got everything and he wants more.

I left there faced with this option. My lawyer fired a letter and a phone call back to his lawyer saying the above. His lawyer says my ex is hurt that I left him for someone else. Really, he's not so hurt if he's taking trips and lets think about where this really started...his brother moving in a year after we were married and never leaving.

It basically boils down to this. I'm going to wait to see what the response is from his lawyer, in the meantime that gives me a chance to get my credit card statements from a few cards. Then based on their response my next and final action will just to buy the fucker out and get rid of him. I'm not about to pay my lawyer $5000 trial retainer for him to get me back $3000. I need to move on.

Speaking of the credit cards, that fucker hates me so much that when I called the back to get my statements going back to 2000, they wanted to charge me $5 a statement. Do the math. $5 x 12 = $60 per year x 8. That sob paid $480 to see me suffer. Wow. He hates me.

It doesn't matter. I did look thru the statements I had and judging by what I have here. I'm already up to $2000 in charges back to him. Coming up with another $6000 to make it even shouldn't be that hard.

Besides, the longer this goes on...the more I don't think he'll show up in court. He's a coward and he does just fine hiding behind lawyers and letters. He can stay there. They won't protect him when this is done.

For the first time in a few months, I feel confident that this will be ending soon. The Manolos are here. My hair is colored. I'm working out 4-5 a week. I just need to get my spending under control. And figure out the BF.