Finally a date...

I've been wanting to call my lawyer for a few days now but with some pending medical issues, I didn't need the heartache. Then he called me. The offer on the table for the last few months now has been over money. Let me say, that not once did I ever change the terms of what I wanted. They, on the other hand, did -- several times.

My lawyer calls me and says that my case went before the judge again and the judge said that the credit card debt was a wash and I would still be stuck paying the ex $5000. My lawyer said that was bullshit and he was going to offer them $1000 less in lieu of my ring which has mysteriously disappeared since 2007. I then told my lawyer I have serious medical issues and I want this done and I want a date before I go into the hospital next Tuesday.

Do I have medical issues, possibly, I had a biopsy. Am I going into the hospital, well yeah to get my results.

After I made that clear to my lawyer, that is when the phone calls started happening. In between calls with my lawyer, I was conversing with my friend who is a lawyer and we both agreed -- the numbers don't add up and the ball was dropped somewhere.

Shortly after that, my lawyer called and said they were standing firm on the $5000 and in lieu of the wedding ring, they would draw up the papers. And it would be done in two weeks. Fine. What was I supposed to do or say? I took the date and sucked it up that I'd have to pay this jerk $5000.

I called back my bff lawyer friend and told her we lost. She was speechless. It was a slam dunk case, I walked away with nothing and still ended up paying. I don't get it. What really makes me mad is how fast we got a date and was it waiting in the wings all along and bam when I said I had medical issues THEN things get done. Hell, I would have pulled that card all along. The thought of him gloating and running around telling everyone he made me pay pisses me off. But I'll write the check and in the memo of the check I'll put -- marriage buyout.

After all the dust settles and the ink is dried, people will know that all he is about is money. Its not the happiness, its about money in their world.

The thing that rocks my world the most is when I called the bf and told him, I was gonna be free he responded with a text that said, that's good for us. I finally told him that I was worried that we'd be dating for a year before I got divorced and he said, close. Which shows, he's keeping tabs.

Its like in the movie, You Got Mail..when Meg Ryan breaks up with Greg Kinear. When she says, its the thought of someone else ...or something like that ...is how I feel. I have that now. I'm more content and happier than ever before.

I'm arranging my posse to meet me at the courthouse. I need someone there because if he does decide to show up, it won't be pretty. I'm on the hunt for the outfit. I can finally open my KOOBA purse. And I feel like I can finally be with my bf.

Then I cried. I was angry, pissed, somewhat joyous that this was FINALLY going to be over. I had a feeling I'd never see my ring again, I was just using it as leverage. But apparently, no one else saw it that way. Now I need to lose 100 lbs in 17 days..

A moment...

I didn't want to update this at work but everyone is gone and I have time to kill before my next job and lets face it, lately when I get home...I don't want to do anything.

I believe it is the end of the road of my relationship with drummer boy. I'm still blocked on facebook and I'm sure I'm blocked on IM. I know I've done this over and over again but it has to end but somehow I just can't let it go. Everytime I get close to the neighborhood...I get sentimental. I feel this way over a douche bag but have absolutely no feelings for my ex husband. Which still hasn't divorced me yet. Note to self, I will make a phone call either tomorrow or Monday.

To end the drummerboy saga for now. I'm sure this is a serious relationship for him if he's gone thru this much trouble to ban me from his life. If it is..I wish him the best of luck. If it isn't...I'm sure he'll come calling soon enough. Besides, I can always look up his movie reviews on youtube.com if I really want to remember him.

So moving on to a relationship that I really do care about and now...really can't stop thinking about...

Current bf of nine months now...finally met my mother on Tuesday night. All went very well. I've only heard my mother go "ohhhh" in that motherly voice twice in the last year. Once when we were at TJ Maxx and there was a stunning Cole Hahn bag there and on Tuesday night when we went to the bathroom and she told me how nice he was.. I'm thinking no kidding, quite a change from before huh.

At then end of the night, when we dropped him off at his house I went to use the restroom and I guess my guy hugged her and told her thanks. He kissed me good bye in front of her and out the door we went. We got in the car and my mom was just stunned. He's very nice and he can carry a conversation. Wow. What does that tell you about my ex husband and guys I've dated since. This for sure is a keeper...but I've known that for a few months now.

I was hoping that him finally meeting my mom would turn the tide a bit and let him know I'm serious and I'm really in this.

Yesterday was current bf's secret day of fun planned for me. We were together all day..three meals together!! I know, relax. Our first stop was to a park near a lake. I've been wanting to go there for a few months now and he's been promising it -- its just that when we took our days of fun this year...we have had bad weather everyday we've skipped out on work. So when the sun was shining -- I was too. Finally, we had a good day.

So we were walking the paths all thru the park, I was in my photo glory, we came upon a clearing that was obviously designed and used for the obvious. I was thinking it when he said it...wouldn't this be a great place for a wedding. I looked at him and said oh yeah....then we walked around in silence for like five minutes then pointed out a few things like lighting and heating....I couldn't help that he was thinking what every girl jumps to in her head....Fall wedding..there! At least that is what I'm planning. Not gonna lie, I've never been so certain about this one.

So this morning when I got to work, I researched the cost and info on my future wedding there. If not wedding, then definitely engagement pictures there.

I mean come on...he had to be thinking of it.

The rest of our day of fun was filled with movie location stops and dinner at an old mobster hideaway. When we then talked about our previous lives. He called my ex an asshole and said he never wanted a wife but just a mom. I'm like YES...I know...it is true tho.

He truly planned the day around things that I love and I would have never gotten that out of my ex or really anyone else I've ever dated. Go with your gut right, this is the one. I know it.

Things on my to do list...

Say I love you and get freaking divorced.